How to make sure a man wants a long term relationship or marriage
1, What time in his life is he in?
Men have times when they would like a relationship and times they do not. It is about finding out if it is the right time.
Is he wanting to settle down, or is it still ‘spreading his wild oats’ and partying? You can find this out by his attitude to life in general, his home and so on. Has he bought a sports car, or one that is suitable for having a family as he expects that to happen soon.
If he is very busy in his career and does not have time to see you for long periods of time, he may just be wanting sex.
If he has just had a breakup, then he maybe on the rebound. He may be a kind of person that wants a relationship, but after a divorce he probably cannot think straight enough to make any stable relationship commitment decisions.
2, Do not sleep with him too soon
a, Women can sleep with a guy and fall in love. For a man it can happen if the women is amazing in bed, but still is just sex that wears out after a while.
A man needs to fall in love with a woman’s mind, not just her body for it t be real love. For this to happen have to sleep with him after a while, or there is never a chance for this to happen. He has slept with the women and if it was not exceptional he will move on. There was never a chance for him to fall in love with your mind.
The period before you sleep together you are in control, it is the time you can use for him to fall in love with your mind. After then, if he has not fallen in love with you, for many guys it is just sex.
b, If the man is not willing to wait until having sex, then he is just wanting sex and will go somewhere else as it is easier to get. If he wants a relationship then he will be happy to meet you loads to build a relationship until the sex thing happens.
We recommend waiting until at last the 6th date to have sex if possible, but in reality 3, 4th or 5th date is likely the best that can be done. However we recommend never earlier than date 3.
You can of course kiss him on the first date and that is important. There are many occassions that the girl does not think much of someone, but after kissing them they really like him.
At this early stage of attraction, it is all in the tease and not in the please. Strippers know this well.
So on date 2 just quickly gently touch him in a couple of erogenous zones, or even once in just one. This is to keep him interested and his imagination going. However that is it.
The problem is that when we really like a guy, we rarely do this. Basically once the hormones get going, all logic goes out of the window. Biologically mother nature just wants us to have babies.
3, What is his history
There are men who just sleep around and do not do a relationship, this maybe detectable by their manner as they are disturbed or traumatised in some way, so they cannot settle down.
If a man has history of not having a relationship, normally they cannot be changed so easily. It is best to find a good candidate.
If a man is still single by 40 they are less likely to settle down, we recommend a divorced man because at least you know they settle down.
The divorce could have been because he is impossible to get on with, it could be he was attracted to the wrong person, or maybe both partners chose the wrong person. Try and find these things out if you can.
However real players will lie and create a false history. If it seems too polished, then it probably is not true.
4, He has the signs of wanting to be a husband
He does not do the things that a guy does when he just wants to have sex. For example he may also be on the sites that are just for having one night stands and hook ups.
If he is wanting a wife, when communicating he will be more focused on what you are like as a person, how you are to be with, how your lives would be and things about being a partner. However of course this is something that a player can fake.
He would like to have children and be a dad. This is a big one. He needs to want it enough and be responsible enough to actually do it. Otherwise he will like the idea, but it will not actually happen.
He needs to be in a part of his life that he is financially ready. If he is still totally focused on his career and needs to totally focus on that to get where he wants or needs to get to, then he is not ready.
So try and find out if it is the right time for him to settle down and he wants to.
Do not sleep with him too soon so he can fall in love with your mind. Also so you know he wants a relationship and not just sex, because he will put the work in.
Try and find out his history. Just like when someone on a job cv has changed jobs a lot, they tend to also in future, the same with men. Sadly people rarely cha